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Where Mature Single Women Can Go To Meet Men

One of the biggest issues with mature single women is the lack of older single men to date. "Where are the men?" they ask.

Natalie, early 50s, Dana Point, California, says, "There aren't many places here for singles aged 50-60 to go." And it's not just in Dana Point or California, single men are lacking throughout the United States.

My answer: "There is no place in the United States that I'm aware of—where older men and women mingle in relatively equal numbers to meet members of the opposite sex." (If there were such a place, it'd be so packed, people wouldn't be able to get in the door.)

Some women are discouraged because there is no easy way to meet men. To meet them requires an effort many are unwilling to make. And even if they make the effort, there is no guarantee of success, although their chances of meeting a potential mate will increase.

So, what can women do? They need to meet new people, which means they must get out of the house and get active. And when they meet new people, they will make new friends. An older single woman named Becky shared her story about the importance of meeting new people.

Becky, Philadelphia, met a man on an Internet dating site and agreed to meet him at a popular Philadelphia pub. Becky decided quickly he wasn't the man for her. But, because she had been willing to risk meeting someone new, she ended up meeting a potential mate.

A local band was playing at the pub. During an intermission, the lead guitarist circulated among the audience, handing out his card, and invited people to his next gig.

Becky and the guitarist started e-mailing and did so as friends-only for months, while both dated other people. During a dating lull for both, he asked her out.

"Friends first is great. He knew my values before we even went out on our first date," said Becky. "I usually can tell within two dates if a new relationship is going anywhere and we've made it past that ‘two-date deadline.'"

Betty, 73, formerly of California, moved to Idaho. She says there aren't many single men in her age range there. To get out and get involved with new people, Betty signed up for a bus trip to attend an opera in a larger city and met a widower on the trip. They are now a couple. Meeting a man can happen to an older woman, but it won't happen by staying home all of the time.

How do women meet new people? By pursuing activities that interest them. It doesn't have to be an activity where men are present nor does it have to be a "singles function." In fact, the ratio of single women to single men at "singles functions" is usually unfavorable for women. And the older the group of people, the worse the ratio will be.

Sarah, of Indianapolis, says, "Just get out there and meet people, don't forget your women friends, they have brothers and male friends."

Church groups, hiking clubs, bridge clubs, volunteer work, working part time are just a few places where single women might meet single men. But go for the fun and activities of being with new people. Don't worry about meeting a mate, it may not happen. But, your life will become less lonely and much more fun.

You can even meet new men in your own home. Start inviting friends to a weekly potluck and insist they bring a friend of the opposite sex they aren't dating.

So where should women go to meet new people? Just about anywhere.

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